Asher Dasher

The Lack of posts lately is due to pain in my upper back...I'm hoping it gets taken care of soon because I'd like to go on with life and get a full night sleep!

Ok on with "things". Forgive me for lack of "editting". Our Asher Dasher is doing so well, but lately we've run into some issues that are definitely related to living in an orphanage for almost 3 years. For the most part he really is doing well, considering where he's come from, untreated sickle cell, and 3 extended stays at the hospital since last fall. Sometimes it's hard to see how fragile he truly is when you see him playing with his friends and rough-housing with his brother. But he is fragile. We did noticed from the beginning his fine motor skill are very well developed, but large motor is extremely delayed. He's delayed in most developmental areas...I'd say he is still on a 2 year old level. But he is progressing.
Learning simple new things have been challenging, learning the language has been a challenge too. But he is learning inch by inch! There was a period he had no language at all, which is common for internationally adoption kids. He would just hum everything he wanted to say...like, if he wanted a drink instead of saying "drink please", he would say "hmmmm hmmmm". He still does this sometimes especially when he wakes up and I need to remind him to use words. He's being silly in the photo below... he loves when you laugh at him for being silly so he decided to put his shirt on the wrong way to make us laugh, and we did :D funny how independent this kids is when it comes to self care.
For the longest time he just didn't know how to play. He still follows along with Evan and my Grandson Levi, not really knowing whats going on, just following along. He has developed more of an imagination, finally. at first we rarely would see him "pretend". Now he will for short periods, then clean everything up and say, "all done momma". He would rather clean up and put things away then play. It seems to comfort him. He's also still very clingy, although he will play in children's church. He also still has very little control of his emotions and volume. He's either quiet and somber or loud and obnoxious. Although this has progressed somewhat. But in the heat of the moment he wouldn't think twice about cracking someone over the head with something if he gets too excited. He's not aggressive, just not on a 3 1/2 year old level. More like an 18/24 month old would. He also still needs to touch everything in site. I'm so glad he's not a very hyper child because we would seriously be in trouble!
I'm planning on having the school evaluate him soon. I didn't want to do it right away because I wanted him to have some language before they classify him with "something". But now I'm ready and I think he does need some extra help. Once we can identify exactly where he needs more support, then we can focus on those areas more. Right now I just see him struggling. All in all he really is a happy kid. He loves his family and we love him to pieces. He does nestle peacefully in my arms and snuggles, my favorite moments. He plays momma, daddy,and baby all the time. He is such a fragile treasure from God. And I pray God helps us get to through the haze...and that smart individual emerges I know is in there.


Kathy C. said...

What a cutie! E-mail me if you want to "talk" about issues. We are going through plenty here!! Resistance to learning, stubbornness, lying...

Kathy C. said...

P.S. kathycassel(at)knology.net